Helplessness is horrible...

"Listen, Lucy

Helplessness is horrible. When you are completely helpless in a situation there is no worse feeling. To watch someone you love deal with unbearable pain and not being able to stop it? There is nothing like it.

I have been witness to some horrible events in my life. Most of the time I was on the outskirts of the situation looking in on people I love trying to cope with a tragedy I couldn’t understand. For a long time I tried to find reason as to why there is so much heart ache and pain and loss. I still don’t have an answer. When I think of the sadness those closest to me have endured I feel a pit in my stomach. You try to find the right words to comfort them but there aren’t any. There are no words to take away the pain of loss.

Unfortunately, this is life and it is hard. Horrible things happen and all you can do is be around to help your friends and family when they need it. You do not need to come up with the answers because there are no answers. You just have to be there. Be sturdy and responsible and reliable. Surround yourself with people you can count on. Surround yourself with people with loyalty because when a tragedy hits, those are the people who won’t flinch. Be one of those flinch-less people."